What is it with people? I mean seriously, where do people get off thinking that my reproductive choices are any of their business?Yes, I have been involved with the same person since Fall of 1999. Yes, I have been married to that same person nearly 5 years. No, I do not have kids. No, I am not ready for kids. No, I don't really want to discuss it.

Last night a old friend messaged me on the web and the first thing she said after hello, was..... "So, when are you going to have kids?" Here's the thing. If I wanted kids at this point in my life I would have them, or I would not want to discuss it because that meant something was wrong. In either case this is not polite conversation.What is it with people wanting to force parenthood on others? It just keeps popping up!

When friends become pregnant one or both members of the unit try to tell us how great it would be. (Granted that does not bother me too much, at least they aren't terribly forceful and only mention it once or twice). While we were home we were playing with out new niece Launa (Paul's baby) at Grants parents house. When Grants father wanders up behind Grant and says "You need to get one of these." To which Grant responded, "No, I don't."

And my all time favorite ambush was at the Pharmacy when I was running an errand for my Grandmother in Dec 2004. When a woman who I had once attended church with asked me "So when are you going to hurry up and make you'r mother a grandma? She is old enough" Much to the amusement of the Pharmacist I responded with "When I can be in the same room with kids and not think of ways to kill them." The pharmacist nearly fell over laughing.

The truth? I don't hate ALL kids, I actually really like some kids, epically in small groups in controlled environments. Chuckee Cheese and Kindergarten classrooms are my idea of what hell might be like. If I hear children screaming I have been known to leave restraunts, business, malls, stores, well... you get the idea.... I even choose my place of employment based on how often I would have to interact with children. Just not my cup of java, you know?

Grant and I came to the conclusion a few months back that we aren't ready and do not think we will be ready for another 5 years, we will re-negotiate then. So, bottom line... dont bug me about it it is none of your damn business.